To begin with,let's take a quick look at Chua's examples cited in the book.Amy Chua,Yale law professor and self-descried "tiger mother", would forced her 7-year-old daughter to practice a piece of piano music for hours without breaks,the bathroom and even water!What's more,it was Chua who calls her older daughter "garbage" after the girl was not well-behaved.Chua also declared ten rules for her daughters,including that they must be the first in the subjects except for physical education and drama and they mustn't choose their without Chua's permission,etc.Although it sounds scaring,she is receiving success now:her older daughter has already been admitted by Yale and Harvard at the same time.So it arouse our debate:do we really need tough parenting to succeed?
Some people, who think this kind of direct parental guidance can help the children grow up without wrong choices and ensuing wasted time, are strongly in favour of this method.These people are almost successful themselves and wish that their children could follow their path in the future.Actually,they think they can replace their children to make decisions for them with the so called life experience. However,a large amount of people disapprove of the method,stating that in this way children may not develop their nature by themselves and even lose the happiness of childhood.
From my point of view,whether tiger moms' tough parenting is practical or not depends on the character of the child.When it comes to those obedient children,this method can exert positive impact on them and help them explore their potential talents;in other words,this kind of parenting can able those children who obey and conduct it make great progress.On the other hand,this approach may pose adverse influece on disobedient children.If this kind of children is growing up under the tough parenting environment,they may even have obstacles or distorion in their mental health.So,whether the method is suitable or not depends on the children's characters.
in my opinion, i disagree wuth what the tiger mother do, i think, chindren should have their freedom to do what they want to do, they should enjoy the wonderful chindhood rather than the boring studying progress. otherwise, even if they succeed in the future, they will feel very sad for not having a interesting childhood and lose their creativity. however, i do not mean that we should connive thw children, parents should be strict to the children whenever necessary to lead them go to the right track. little sister. :b
ReplyDeleteYes,I do agree with you to some extent.Some parents even hold the opinion that if they let children spend their childhood freely,the children may lose and sad in the future.Actually,it is not wise to totally deny,since the tough parenting can also be beneficial to some children.
DeleteI agree with you that parents should use different methods to different children.I think parents should be less strict with the obedient kids.On the contrary, they need to lead them to do what they want to do, which is better for their life.Because I think characters sometimes are very important to one's success.But the strictness at something is definitely good to young children.
ReplyDeleteCharacter is actually one of those keys for one's success,so it is the question that is strictness beneficial for the children to cultivate a good character?I think that remains a doubt and that's why tiger moms' method is in the tough debate.However,you are right that it's essential for parents to be strict to some aspects~!!
DeleteAs parents, it's good to be strict. But it shouldn't go to extreme.
ReplyDeleteNot all children can bear the high pressure and the insult like "garbage", which may cause a permanent psychocogical shadow in their mind. Maybe the result isn't leading them to success, but ruining their lives.
Yes,I think you mentioned a good point about the detail of the insult like "garbage".For me,I will be totally heart-broken if my mother calls me like that.It's a good opinion to say that we should define strictness in a right mindset but not to go extreme to insult.That's really scaring~!!Parents should focus a lot on children's mental health not just on study.
DeleteMaybe it's always correct for young adults like us to be dying to success,instead of being distracted.
ReplyDeleteSorry,you mean...distracted by what?,,,
DeleteAs children don't have too much self control, strict parents can definitely guarantee that their children do the right things. Moreover, proper pressure can motivate children's personal potential.
ReplyDeleteI think you are really wise to use the word "proper pressure".HAHA Tiger moms always give their children much pressure which they think as impetus.Everything has a limit,let alone pressure.Yes,strictness sometimes really help with children's self-control,but is it necessary to make a young child control that much?...It remains to be seen.
DeleteIt is a Chinese tradition for the education at home. But I cannot agree this parenting style. Although each mother wants her son or daughter to succeed, but they should respect childrens' interest firstly. If a children cannot feel happy in his or her childhood, if can never be made up even in her or his whole life.
ReplyDeleteYes,what you have stressed is about the joy in childhood is one of the reasons why some people are strongly disapprove of the tiger moms' method.haha~~why it is a Chinese tradition?~~I admit my mother is a little bit like tiger mom~hehe~~~
DeleteI don't think we can define a perfect family education, so I think it's ok that Chua has her own way of raising her children as long as her children really benefit from it.
ReplyDeleteWell,sometimes although children can benifit from the parenting but they may lose some happiness.It seems like a dilemma,that's why the book has sparked much debate on parenting.
DeleteActually, I don't agree with tiger parents. Yale and Harvard don't mean success. The attitudes towards life are the most important. I have heard many students suicided because of pressure. If we lose happiness in our lives, every others things like good grades or wealth would be meaningless.
ReplyDeleteActually,it's hard to define success.For many people,going to a prestigious university is successful.Those who suisided were the losers to life and difficulties.And I do agree with you that we can never lose hope and happiness in our mind!!
DeleteThe tiger mother did make a great achievement. However, as for me, it is not the parents but the children really matter. No matter how parents are, there are always good children and bad children.
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